That time of the year has approached again and the Leaving Cert results are set to be released on Wednesday the 16th of August. With that comes a whole range of emotions, from delight or despair– due to points and grades – to stress, worry or excitement about what’s to come next when the CAO offers come out.
Results day can be a joyous one for many, and the complete opposite for others, so it is best to be prepared for all possible outcomes. And remember, there is no right or wrong path to achieving goals and dreams, so keep that in mind for yourself and your child at this pivotal time in their life.
Leaving cert results – advice for parents.
Here are a few tips for dealing with results – both good and bad – and the days that follow.
Prepare a back-up plan
The Leaving Certificate, and the points games to secure a college place, can seem like the be all and end all when you’re in the midst of them, but there are plenty of back up routes to get the same end result.
First and foremost parents and students should discuss a back-up plan in advance, in the case that points aren’t achieved, or the desired course isn’t offered. There are plenty of other options available, and sitting down and discussing them with your child, while they are calm about it, will help you both to figure out what suits best.
If they did not recieve their first choice when the offers roll around, consider accepting an alternative course offered, or applying for re-check of scripts to potentially bring up the points they recieved. Many college places also become available after the first round of offers have been allocated, these are places that have not been filled by other students. Checking availabilty of these courses on the CAO website, and ensuring that they are infact interested in the course, could also be an option for your child.
Applying for PLC and Further Education courses are excellent stepping stones towards skilled employment, or further education. They often lead to FETAC awards, and some are linked to reserved places on higher education course.
Repeating the Leaving Cert is an option, that while not lightly taken can be a very realistic option, as long as the student is prepared and determined for another year at it. Remember you do not need to sit the same subjects again. Also you don’t have to retake subjects, which are specific requirements for particular colleges or courses, if the minimums are already obtained.
Don’t over-speculate or spend too much time discussing results immediately after they come out. The final outcomes are not determined until the final round of CAO offers are out, and over discussion may only increase anxiety around the subject during an already worrisome period.
Also if your child does receive their first choice in the CAO offers, remember that while some are celebrating, others are disappointed.
Be mindful of others
As stated above, one person’s success, could also be another’s disappointment. Both parents and students should be mindful of others who may not have recieved the points they wished, or got into the course of their dreams.
Also remember that everyone has differing abilities, and what one student received may be a long way off the results of their peers, but to them it might be a real achievement because of personal circumstances. All students are different, so be sure to stay aware of this in the coming days and weeks, when all this talk of results and college is in full flow.
Choosing the right option
Talking with your child and listening to them about what they want to do after school, is the most important thing to have done before the Leaving Cert. Now during the waiting game for results and offers, be sure that you are choosing the right option for your family.
Don’t send your child off to college, just because you want them to go, or send them to a course you want them to do. If they are unsure of what they want to do after the Leaving Certificate, there are plenty of other options for school leavers.
Gap years can be a great option to allow them to travel and gain some life experience, and may help with deciding on a future career path, as well as developing valuable work skills. There are many websites and organisations to further research this on.
Even the most chilled out students can experience some stress and anxiety during the run-up to receiving their results. There is a lot of pressure to measure up to their peers, as well as to teachers, parents and their own expectations.
It is up to parents to reassure them that the results aren’t the end of the world, and that regardless of the outcome this is only one small step towards their future. Reaffirming that you are proud of them no matter the outcome, will help them face the road ahead.
Build their confidence up by focusing on their strengths and achievements. Remind them of their unique qualities, and help them towards self-belief in their own skills.
Control your own feelings
As a parent you may well have high hopes for your childs exam results, and what you want them to do after the Leaving Cert. However you can also be left disappointed when the results are not what you expected.
Remember to keep your own feelings in check. Your child may not be showing it, but they are likely worried about what the future holds, and they will need your support to help them through this tough transitional time.
“Every child is different and what is a great exam result for one seems like a failure to another. Some students put too much pressure on themselves and it is up to the parents to manage those expectations and help their child to understand that exam results are just one step on their path of life – not life itself. Of course there are other children that can’t be bothered with study and exams at all – so your job then is to helpfully encourage them to do the best they can and to find that alternative path they are looking for. One lesson we’ve all learned at this stage is that parenting is never straightforward!’
Kate Gunn, Mum of three
When I received my results there was a lot of mixed emotion, I had a tough time with my mental health throughout the exams and I came out with better results than I had expected. I was elated, but when the offers came around, I was five points short of my first choice. Devastation struck, but I took the choice I had been offered of Journalism in DIT, and hoped for the best, knowing that there were options to transfer or to reapply the following year. Four years later, I’ve got my journalism degree behind me, having made some amazing friends and had some unforgettable times along the way. I feel a lot different to that girl who didn’t get what she wanted in the Leaving Cert, in the end it worked out in my favour.
Mary Kate Hickey, Leaving Cert Year of 2013
(Originally posted on http://mumsonline.ie/leaving-cert-results-advice-for-parents/ )